family values

This graph (taken from wikipedia) shows the impact of maternal age on the percentage of children born with a genetic condition called Trisomy 21, better known as Down Syndrome. People with Down Syndrome are near to my heart due to my mother’s vocation as a special education counsellor prior her work in pastoral ministry, and by being introduced to a number of people with a variety of conditions, I’ve gained a greater appreciation for the beauty of our innate humanity, regardless of our unique limitations.
That being said, as the graph shows above, if you’re able to have your children by age 35 instead of 45, you’ve cut the risk of Down’s by more than a factor of seven. Sarah Palin, the 44 year old Republican vice-presidential nominee, and her husband, Alaska’s “First Dude” recently had their fifth child, Tryg who was born with Down’s. The Palin’s are rightfully (in my opinion) lauded by social conservatives for electing to bear the child to term even after the genetic condition was discovered. From statistics I’ve seen listed, 80% of Down’s afflicted babies are aborted.
Abortion (like gay marriage) is the hot button issue for many communities, particularly Christian, and while I think that single-issue voters are such a minority that they would have difficulty swinging an election, both political parties try to manipulate every occurrence for political gain. Republicans pride themselves on being “pro-life” and in favor of family values, while most Democrats insist on being “pro-choice” and in favor of family values. Individual contemplation is replaced by party line.
What gets lost in the middle of all of this is the ability to examine people’s character and wisdom. While it’s risky to do so and should be done with care and benefit of doubt, if you’re going to applaud the Palin’s for keeping their child, is it valid to question why with a family of four children would you be trying for a fifth when you’re occupying the state’s top position and well out on the bell curve of healthy pregnancies? If you’re going to praise Sarah Palin for her views on abstinence only education, aren’t you justified in asking how those (failed) policies play into teen pregnancy, like the case of her daughter, Bristol Palin, 17? Instead of getting all excited that Bristol will supposedly be married to her baby daddy, why aren’t we asking what more can we do to support all life?
Clearly I’m annoyed with Republican policies. I’m annoyed that people would try to withhold information on sexuality and contraception to kids who are clearly going to have sex whether it’s ordained or not. Additionally, I’m annoyed that the GOP would try and spin an unwanted teen pregnancy as a sign of family values because the child should be kept, instead of the unfortunate event that it is. Furthermore, I’m annoyed that these parts of “pro-life” policy are really inconsistent snippets of an overarching policy that does little for the child born to the average unwed mother, often favors the death penalty, and in my mind cares too little for human life elsewhere, while still proclaiming moral superiority.
No one “likes” abortion, but even as someone who abhors it, instead of seeing it outlawed, I’d rather see everything done to try and make it trend toward zero by offering teenagers (especially those who don’t live in the governor’s house) options and benefits. I’d like to see information on contraception, and studies about what we know regarding pregnancy and the factors towards have healthy children more readily available, especially in high school. I’d like to see the death penalty outlawed. I’d like to see us care more for our poor, and the world’s poor, and in that sense be “pro-life” as in “for life”, as in making each life valued and protected. I’d like to see a president who’s idea of foreign policy isn’t humming “Bomb-bomb-bomb, bomb-bomb Iran.” I’d like to see a president elected who won’t pander and who doesn’t criticize their opponent for lack of experience, then pick an inexperienced running-mate purely to try and chip off a block of disaffected Hillary supporters.
Those are my family values.

September 3rd, 2008 at 4:45 pm
amen and amen. I’ve been having this whole “how can you vote for a pro-choice candidate?” with my in-laws and it really gets frustrating when you realize there is really no room for discussion because your line on abortion trumps everything. Even more annoying is that it’s all propped up by utilitarian ethics. Bring up torture, the death penalty, an unjust war, etc. etc. and the trump card is always “yeah, but abortion kill 10 times as many.” Consistency and integrity between all one’s positions, rather than a number comparison, is what I’m looking for.
September 7th, 2008 at 3:17 pm
Well said.
And on this note: “is it valid to question why with a family of four children would you be trying for a fifth when you’re occupying the state’s top position and well out on the bell curve of healthy pregnancies? ”
…. I’m thinking that it’s pretty obvious that they were NOT trying for a fifth and that baby Trig was accidental (did you know 40-50% of pregnancies - married or not- are unintended?). She kept her pregnancy secret until month 7, even from her family. I think it’s clear she did not want a 5th and especially did not want a DS baby - maybe it’s just me projecting what I’m sure I’d feel in that situation…). So she decided to have the baby, which in many cases would have been aborted (not JUST for the DS, but also for the timing).
Sex and babies are complicated issues. Even those of us that choose to save sex for the instances within God’s parameters have difficult, and often inconvenient, decisions to make. Sarah had no choice (given her beliefs, and mine) but to keep the pregnancy. But I know if I were in her shoes I’d be pretty devastated - I don’t plan to have more children myself, and another pregnancy at this point would be very inconvenient. Am I callous talking about children this way? Maybe. But it is a reality in this world of longer life expectancies, more opportunities for women, and the truth that even the best birth control has a failure rate. Dave and I (well, ok - so it was Dave) had a vasectomy as part of our family planning, but even those can fail. (I personally know 2 people with post-vasectomy “surprises”). I know that with God’s help we’d work through an unexpected pregnancy, but it would be unwelcome, and complicated.
So many new issues to wade through in our times. I’m so grateful to have all the opportunities afforded to me now as a woman, but by the nature of biology, if I refuse to accept abortion as an option (which I do for me, but believe it should still be legal), then I have to accept that there are implications for my life as I continue to participate in (and enjoy!) God-ordained, married sex. Babies are always, always a possibility.
September 7th, 2008 at 6:10 pm
You really made me think. So much so, that I finally posted a blog entry about it.
Sorry to call you out, man. (We agree on much, but you made 2 major assumptions that must be looked at). http://www.mypinktoes.com/2008/09/on_choice_sex_and_sarah_palin.html
Thanks for inspiring me to write out what I think. I always enjoy reading your posts. (Ok, so I don’t enjoy the ones about cycling…I just skip those).
Cheers!
September 12th, 2008 at 1:06 pm
Alan, how many Leahs do you know?!
I agree about the inconsistency of pro-life vis a vis the death penalty. Creepy, if you ask me.
I think that Trig was an accident (and I hope his name was also an accident?!) and bearing him was consistent w/ his mom’s beliefs. I feel more judgmental about the fact that she’s consigned her 17-year-old daughter to a shotgun wedding w/ a high school dropout. Holy cow.
September 13th, 2008 at 8:02 pm
Did y’all see Palin’s interview where she says she’s pro-life in all cases except where the mother’s life is at risk, and then says “but I respect other people’s decisions, too.” Doesn’t that mean pro-choice? It’s amazing the level of double-talk in this election.
This 5-page article should be required reading for all voters:
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/09/14/us/politics/14palin.html
The picture painted of Palin is GWB v2.0.
And for what it’s worth… I cannot imaging having the job of VP (or POTUS) as the father of a toddler, let alone multiple kids and one with special needs. But I’m pro-choice on that topic, too… it’s her choice.